For example when you say “I love you†to a person observe carefully, the inner state of the various parts of your being. What is behind this I-love-you? In the lips it is a mass of verbiage made of three letters. In thought and will there is perhaps a want or a wish to love. “I want very much to love you†but in the heart or feeling there is an intense longing to be loved which cries or rather begs silently “love meâ€. So in human life what passes off as love is mostly self-love, there is more love for the self than the person you profess to love. There is also no dignity in it, because it is a love with a hidden begging bowl.